"Warmth"

Last Saturday, we were needling a friend about this girl that he was kinda seeing. When we asked him what the matter was, he admitted that the reason it would probably not go anywhere was because the girl wasn't "warm", and "warmth" was one of the main things that he looked for in a girl.

It was only last night, when I started to really think about it, that I realized that "warmth" is very important to me as well. It really is kind of a big deal.

It reminds me of this girl I know. She's smart, she's lovely, and she's friendly. I even have a little innocent crush on her. The thing is though, she doesn't exude that kind of "warmth" (or at least not toward me, heh). We're friends, but I never feel comfortable with or close enough to her to, say, ask her to read a draft of a story I'm writing, or share with her anecdotes about my sister, that sort of thing.

I know that it's unfair and totally subjective, but it's how I feel, and I'm sure it's the sort of matter that's at work with a million other guys intimidated with a million other girls, no matter how smart, lovely, or friendly they may be. Sad, but true.

- posted by jaemark @ 10/11/2005 09:57:00 PM